Introduction
When I packed my bags a couple of years ago and exchanged the Parisian life for a taste of London, I had high expectations, not just because this was my first shot at independence but also because I was a queer about to venture into one of the world’s most cosmopolitan places for the LGBTQ+ community.
I thought for sure that this place was where being a lesbian would feel effortless. In many ways, I was right. London has been a place of self-discovery, new experiences, and a sense of openness that wasn’t always easy to find anywhere else. But, as with any place, the reality is more nuanced. Some days, I feel completely at home; other days, I’m reminded that even in a progressive city, acceptance isn’t always universal.
Join me, Emmanuelle, as I explore being a Lesbian in London!
Acceptance and Safety of Lesbians in London
Let me start by saying that London is a great place to be out and proud of your sexuality. No one will bat an eye if you hold another woman’s hand in public, and you can walk into most spaces without thinking twice about how people will react to your sexuality, which is a major relief.
That said, it’s not all sunshine and rainbows (hah!). There are still moments when you have to read the room. Some areas feel completely safe; others…not so much. Taking the Tube late at night? That’s when I sometimes rethink kissing my date goodbye. Most of the time, London is a place where you can be yourself, but there’s always that underlying awareness—just in case.
Community and Social Scene
London has a vast queer scene, though finding the right place and community takes time. There are lesbian-focused spaces like She Soho, La Camionera, and Goldie Saloon that attract the lesbian community in London. However, beyond the lesbian nightclubs of London, options for other activities can feel scattered. Book clubs, queer meetups, and sports groups exist, but they often require effort to find.
What Is It Like to Date a Lesbian in London?
Apps like HER and Bumble make lesbian speed dating easy in London, but conversations often fizzle out before plans are made. The city’s size means you can meet someone amazing—only to find they live an hour away (sucks when it happens!).
While there’s a large LGBTQ+ population, circles can still feel small, especially if you frequent the same events. Still, the range of backgrounds and personalities in London makes dating dynamic, even if patience is sometimes required.
Existence of Workplace and Legal Protections
I’ve said it time and again here in Emmanuelle Jolie in London, the best part about being a lesbian in this city is the progressive work culture. Many companies have strong policies against discrimination, and it’s often a non-issue to be queer. The Equality Act 2010 plays a big role in the safety and equal treatment of lesbians here in London.
Conclusion
So, what’s it really like to be a lesbian in London? It’s a mix. Some days, it feels like the best place in the world where you can walk into a queer-friendly café, flirt with a cute bartender, and dance all night at a sapphic club night. Other days, you wonder if you’ll ever find a date who you can have a genuine connection with.
But overall? London is where you can be yourself, and that, in itself, is pretty special. If you want to share your own story or let others know about the vibrant world of London’s LGBTQ+ community, feel free to contact me for a collaboration. For more blogs like this and insights into my journey as a lesbian, check out my other blogs at Emmanuelle Jolie in London or follow me on my socials!
